Goals are essential in life to achieving what you want. This video is encouraging everyone to make a contribution to their own life and to society.
This Post is an excellent idea from one of my favourite Personal Growth guru, Jim Rohn who died in 2009. A lot of his speeches are on YouTube and he has many books including excellent audio book “ The day That Turned Your Life around”. He taught Tony Robins from a very young age and has over 40 plus years of experience in personal development.
Here is brief summary of getting what you want.
1 : Write down 50 things you want. This could be places to visit, items you want, experiences or any thing you don’t have but want. Example visit India , big house , new relationship or new career in acting.
2 : Number each item on the list on how long it would take you to achieve the goal either : 1 year : 3 years : 5 years or 10 years.
3 : Have 4 categories of 4 different time periods . Put the wants in their respective year. Example : new relationship year 1, new career in acting year 3 ,visit India year 5 and have a big house year 10.
5 : Now you should have all your 50 wants divided into each year.
6 : Year 1 list ,choose 4 most important goals you want.
Ask the question for each goal : Why do you want this specific goal and why is it important to you personally? This will activate the desire from an emotional cause. The more you desire the want , the easier the action will be. Another question to fuel the desire : What is the Purpose of the goal and what kind of person do you need to be to attain it?
Jim Rohn said in his workshop that the astronauts that fly to the moon have goals to reach when they come back to earth because it effects astronauts psychologically if no focus. From a brain perspective or ego, brain needs to focus on the future especially after a momentous event give meaning to a person life. He said that his father at the age 92, a year before his death had goals to give him purpose in his life.
Writing down the list is the lift or motivation to get the brain into momentum, especially the subconscious part that runs all our behaviour and programs. Reviewing the list and adjusting what you want is giving the universe opportunity to bless your intentions and discover what you really want.
In conclusion the things you want is about exploring and experiencing life wonderful opportunities now and in the future.
“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”
If you want to clear your mind and lungs of challenges why not take a walk across the beautiful Dartmoor countryside with quality compassionate listening. Below is a Short video of Devon National Park to help you to recenter yourself.
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Life comes and go like water that follows the path of least resistance. I thought it was time to expose the real me to the world. Since the death of my wife I have been reborn and cut lose from the death trap of modern living.
This post I want to be congruent and be the authentic me for two reasons . Firstly cut away all the facade of who I am endeavouring to be but show real life of a widower and hopefully touch others. The second reason is to inspire others to feel the life there are living now even if it’s not perfect.
As a therapist, the biggest problem is not the circumstances of people’s lives but not being present to life now. The Denial of feelings and not accepting what’s happening or happened.
I going to be open now and give a brief review of my present life. There are times when I have said Fucked God , fucked the world etc. In the present of others especially family , I was more concerned about their feelings and not sharing mine. Then there are other times Wow I’m intoxicated with being alive , nature just blows me away. Acceptance of how we feel makes us alive not dead. There is no such thing as negative feelings, if shit happens , you will feel like shit. Go with the flow and never judge how you feel that is part of the growing process.
Sex, sex , sex, it’s not a dirty word but who talks about the needs of the single person who had it in the past. Since my wife having cancer and dying, sex went out of the window. I know it’s not the be all and end all . Now I have empathy for all those failed relationships where the person needs were met in past relationships. And through no fault of their own they are back on the market again.
I have read so many books from the science and psychology of dating. Being a 50+ with two kids at home is a game changer. I tried so many dating apps , honestly say not worked for me. Feels like swipe the picture and you say like them , send a message and no reply it’s totally weird. Anyway If I was 25 it would be a piece of cake. I understand the psychology of relationships that have failed, I am saying don’t live in the past embrace now and the future potential.
Last week I was so freaked out by incident I nearly lost everything I worked for just because my inner child wanted to run away. Again I encourage you to be courageous and embrace the fear even if it scars the shit out of you. The core beliefs and patterns we carry dictate our choices. Even a therapist have struggles at times that confront the unfamiliar.
In conclusion if your not 75 yet don’t die or give up regarding any of the crap you encounter. Because if you do you have killed your inner soul who loves you so much and has got you were you are today.