Behaviour Patterns: Tolerance a conundrum of realistic expectations with a balancing act of freedoms safeguarding the vulnerable

“I am not interested in picking up crumbs of compassion thrown from the table of someone who considers himself my master. I want the full menu of rights.” Desmond Tutu


From the very start I will put an advisory note: This post may trigger you from intellectual or emotive maybe both. This is not radical propagation of dogma just an inquiry the observation of behaviours and that may include yours. Further assistance in exploring certain narratives speak to a trained and qualified therapist.


The perspective of who we are is indoctrinated by experience that shapes our perspective and reality. The conjecture of thousands of years religious, political and culture shapes the environment. The language, the architecture, the landscape, and other systems influence our reality regardless of who we claim to be. This consolidated and reenforced by society expectations of what is the normal behaviour. To say we are individual is not the whole truth because to fit into the modern world we must conform. I want labour the point but just one core component in the modern world is money. All our behaviour is influence by our perspective of how we relate to money.


The evolving consensus of human rights is very emotive one because it involves the whole world through monetary globalisation of products and services. The western consumer may argue it’s their rights to have a lifestyle at a particular standard. The production of low-cost items divided the economy of class distinction. The fact is that Monaco with a population of less than 40,000 has highest monthly income worldwide compared to lowest income in Afghanistan with a population of over 37 million. I would argue the point that rich and the poor due to our behaviour globally based on the currency of financial systems. These structures have definitive influence on our perception. This is a complex issue that will not be solved by capitalism (I am aware that I am part of the system) but a global consciousness on equality from a fundamental right. This is just one reason tolerance is a conundrum of realistic expectations with a balancing act of freedoms safeguarding the vulnerable.


Behaviour patterns of humanity are in our DNA that has passed down through the generations of expectations. The core issue of behaviour patterns is not fixed but transitory because at different stages in our development we had to change. I will say in some cultures there is a different structure for example the caste system in India has predestined to what and who you are. The behaviour of a child will change to what is expected of an adult in many countries. The relationships shape our tolerance of freedoms as important modality for acceptance or change. I will mention a few examples that shapes our reality.




The child learns behaviours either for good or not so great. The children’s relationships with persistent abuse may feel that is how the whole world works. The child may repress its anger or fuel its rage in positive change or destruction. Every relationship will affect the psyche of a person even if not aware of it. The parents from not so long ago say spare the rod you spoil the child. It has been taken from bible verse Proverbs 13: 24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

For centuries the church has used this arsenal to victimise the child as an animal with no rights. The corporal punishment is vindictive of a two-tier system of judge and jury which is the heart of Judaism and Christianity. The hell fire doctrines and the saints and sinners’ philosophy influenced millions behaviour against tolerance in cause of truth, I would say hypocrisy to the master and servant ideology. The age of enlightenment liberated the barbaric notation to a rational and sense perspective thank God pun intended.




This is probably a more shrouded concept because of our perceived identity as a just individual. The reality is we all have bias about others due to experiences and beliefs.

There is a very detailed overview of the evolution of awareness and social structure with the rights of the disadvantage. (Used the term not as negative preface but a common term for public reference ) Follow the link below for further information and you will be surprised.


The under lying prejudice to difference is from ignorance. The cascades of stereotypes popularised through the decades of intolerance persist in the form of so-called humour. The most offensive I would say is the comedian who makes a joke of their circumstance giving no thought of the feelings of like individuals. Imagine a blind or autistic person making the jokes about themselves robs the dignity of what amazing blind and autistic people are doing living a full life as normal happy citizens.


The joy of being diverse adds colour and depth to society because in essence no body perfect from birth to the grave. The human species lack of tolerance are core beliefs about the self as inadequate. Whatever the reason as Desmond tutu said about intolerance is a brilliant reminder of authentic compassion from the heart not the head “I am not interested in picking up crumbs of compassion thrown from the table of someone who considers himself my master. I want the full menu of rights.



Questions to reflect on


1: Why do I think and feel I am better than someone else?


2: How would I cope being in that person’s situation, that’s irritated me?


3: Am I living in the past about how I feel about this situation?


4: Is the compassion for you or them and why?


5: Am I grateful regardless of what difficulties I encounter?


6: Do I project my expectations on to others as my rights?

7: Do I love the world of humanity with no hidden agendas?


8: Can I accept the difference as a basic human right?


9: How can I protect and advocate the vulnerable rights?


10: Do I love my apparent inadequacies?




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About Stephen Hyne

I am creative and curious about life. I have a passion for the brain and the psychology of human behaviour. I love the renaissance art, culture and architecture. Music is my best friend follows me on my life journey of discovery.

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